Picture this: You are in a new school, and there are more than 1,200 people you don’t know. You’re scared; you have never met one single person in this building before. You don’t know if anyone is going to accept you. You feel as if every one of them is sizing you up and judging you. This was the case for me when I moved in the middle of 6th grade. I moved from a small town. The middle school I was going to attend was more than four times the size of the school I had previously been attending.
I was scared, and I didn’t know what to think. I knew the new school was going to be completely different than my old one. The whole day was going completely down hill until one little thing changed everything.
You only really know what it’s like to be the new kid when you’ve been one. Being the new kid is like being a fish out of water, and I know that for a fact.
It may seem easy to some, but transitioning from your old life, where you were comfortable, to a whole new life is a pretty big deal. It’s scary, tedious, and hard. You don’t know what to expect. Everyone wants to fit in, and you can’t deny that. Everyone wants to be liked and wanted. When you are the new kid, you have to start over and gain that all back.
Flash back a couple years. It’s sixth grade, my first year of middle school. I was so scared, walking into a big school, not knowing anyone. How could I possibly do it? One little me against, what seemed like, the biggest school ever. I tried to think of it as a clean slate, a new start, I could be who ever I wanted to be, but it was tricky.
I walked into the big entrance of the school for the first time, took a big gulp and proceeded forward. Each step I took was like climbing over a mountain, one baby step at a time. I got closer to starting this new experience. All I wanted was to be able to go to someone for help and for guidance, but I was so alone. Of course I had the teachers, but to have a friend, that would be amazing.
I had gotten through 4 classes of stares and judgments and finally the bell rang for lunch. I gathered my books together and assumed I would be eating either alone or in the bathroom. When all of the sudden something great happened, a girl came up to me.
I’m guessing she probably noticed my lost expression. She asked “do you want to sit with me at lunch?” It was gift like no other. All I could do was smile and nod. She directed me to where she sat and asked me about where I was from and how I was getting along. Such a small gesture went such a long way. This shows that no matter how small the deed, you can make a huge difference in someone’s life.
When you think of the number one, you probably think of something small. A baby is only one year old, you only have one percent battery on your phone, or you only get one cookie when everyone else gets four. But also, there is also only one president, one America , and one earth. I’d say those are pretty big things. Just that small thing made a big impact and had so much significance. Only one girl came up to me that day, but it made a world of a difference.
It is all in the eye of the beholder. Someone who has never been the new kid may not understand the how much one small little gesture means. If there is ever a new kid who needs help, I will be the first one to help them since I know how it feels. I will always be the bigger person and stand up for the kid who gets laughed at and help up the girl who trips in front of everyone. We all know it’s hard, and we wouldn’t want that to be us. Not knowing where you fit in is something I had to overcome, but having just one person show compassion made the experience so much easier. I couldn’t have done it alone, and I am so grateful for that one small gesture that turned a horrible day into a good one.